The word alone brings unpleasant colors and images to mind. Things I'd honestly rather not think about.
The word itself is neutral. A-n-g-e-r. Just five letters coming together to make a word. But it's the emotion we've charged this word with that gives it the ability to impact us. And that goes for every other word in existence, too.
A while back I did an experiment focused on anger. The results were so interesting that I couldn't help but share them with you. Here's how it went down:
I wanted to see what would happen if the next time I felt myself begin to get angry about something I could consciously choose to feel something different. Not as a distraction, but as a learning opportunity.
I picked two emotions to play with: curiosity and amusement.
And before long, the perfect opportunity for me to try my experiment presented itself.
I'd ordered a gift for a friend's birthday, and it was something I knew they would absolutely love. To ensure I'd be able to get the...
Several years ago, I attended a quarterly in-person mastermind event for a program I was in.
There were about twenty of us in the room, and by early afternoon it was time for the "Planning" portion of our meeting.
To begin the session, the head coach gave us an exercise not unfamiliar to most of us in the coaching industry who've done any sort of business planning. She asked us to write down the amount of revenue we were hoping to make over the next five years.
So, we each got to work calculating what we thought we could bring in for the remainder of the current year, as well as forecasting what we thought would be doable for each of the four years following.
When everyone was finished, she told us to do something that blew our brains wide open.
We were instructed to look at the revenue amount we'd placed the furthest out – the one in our five-year column. Then, as she slowly walked behind each one of us, she said, "Now, add a zero to the end of that number."
My brain is a beast, which is great and also awful.
It focuses on whatever I direct it to focus on. Those things could be amazing thoughts about what I'm planning for the future, or they could be sucky thoughts about how I didn't make that one phone call I needed to.
Either way, my brain goes to work focusing on whatever I tell it to. It's doing its job. 100% of the time.
It's up to me to do my job of directing its focus so it stays on thoughts that serve me and help me move forward. Otherwise, there's a strong chance it's going to latch on to an unhelpful thought and go to town with it.
Is something wrong with my brain? No – that's what brains do. This is the beautiful experience of being a human.
So, if you find your unattended mind acting similarly, know everything is working as it should...
And, that you can change the conversation happening in your brain any time you like.
Shift it from one that keeps ruminating on how much it didn't get done yesterday to one that's...